Have you ever felt like you were all over the place? Unproductive? Flitting from here to there? Like you're always saying yes when you wish, you could say no? Doing things that don't feel right or that aren't serving your priorities?
You probably don't have solid boundaries in place.
Boundaries are all about your mental health. If your head's not in the game, if your mind and priorities aren't clear enough to enforce boundaries, you've lost before you've even begun.
Like a lot of things in life, these will be challenged. And when they do, you'll need some solid footing to stand on to move forward.
In this episode I'll discuss the six things to do when creating (successful) boundaries, whether it's for your personal or professional life…or both!
Welcome to the Small Business big mindset Podcast, where we dive into tactical strategies to grow your business. And to make an impact on this world. A huge part of success is keeping your mindset and vision on track. So this is a major part of our process. And this podcast, let's do this. Hey, Erin here, welcome to the mall Business big mindset odcast this week, I am going ver setting boundaries mostly or your business, but these can ranslate into your regular life oo. So are you have you ever een like kind of feeling all ver the place, unproductive litting from here to there? eel like you're always saying es. When you wish, you could ay no, doing things that don't eel right or that aren't erving your priorities, you robably don't have solid oundaries in place. So to me, oundaries are all about your ental health. If your head sat n the game, if your mind isn't lear, and your priorities nough to enforce boundaries, ou've lost before you've even egun. So think about why you eed boundaries. Like a lot of hings in life, these will be hallenged. And when they do, ou'll need some solid footing o stand on to move forward. Why re you creating boundaries? And hat will have you stick with t? Because like I said, if you on't know exactly why you have hem and why you're kind of ike, you know, protecting ourself, then as soon as those oundaries are challenged like hat those walls are gonna fall ight down, right? Your family s going to need something your our review of another job or is oing to need something a riend, you know, and then those oundaries are but Oh, sure, es, yes, yes, me help me help. nd those boundaries are going o go right down. So you really ot to be very clear about, you now, why you need them and why ou're setting them. So there re certain areas in your life hat need boundaries, some more han others. For me, the biggie s making sure my professional ife doesn't overtake my ersonal life, it's super easy or me to go down that road. So identify my non negotiables. hat could be evenings, eekends, kid events, family acations, date night, and it's greed upon with the family, we re all on the same page. That's biggie to communication, ight? So if you're thinking, h, it's cool if I, you know, ork every Saturday, or if I ork until 7pm, during the week, nd you're assuming your family s cool with that, and your amily is like what what is this erson doing? They should be pending time with us, then the esentment is going to grow on oth sides. And it's not going o be a great situation. So once ou figure out in this example, ike a schedule that you need to ommunicate it, so of course, here's going to be seasons in our business or job that will equire some gray lines, right? ou know, maybe you work in etail on Black Friday, it's ike you got to be it's all ands on deck, right? So that's different story. But those lso should be clearly defined nd agreed upon with your family nd friends or whoever is mpacted. So identify your non egotiables and communicate them nd to reach a level of nderstanding. If people aren't ware or not supportive, that's problem. What are your top ike two to four priorities, lign your boundaries to protect hem, Be specific on what your oundaries are, write them down, ommunicate them be clear. And I eally suggest putting them on our calendar is dinner with our family a non negotiable, lock it out on your calendar, hat's your daily routine is orking out a non negotiable, ut it on the calendar, share he calendar with your loved nes that are involved. You can ven label and color code if ou're more visual, and it helps ou to kind of organize and ommunicate it better. You can ven write down what will happen f you don't comply with these oundaries. What will happen if ou consistently Miss family inner, what will happen if you top going to the gym, and hat'll kind of get you otivated to really instill hose boundaries and hold them p. So I'm off the clock at inner time and ideally the rest f the night. I'm off the clock ostly during weekends and olidays, unless it's an dentified crunch time. When uilding a business or career, t's super important to have trong boundaries. So because oth can be overpowering if you et them so at some point you'll ook up and realize your elationships have waned or isappeared altogether. There's o one there left really to njoy your business and career uccesses with so I've mentioned his numerous times to try time locking to be as productive as ossible during your working ours has to be organized and ntentional and planned. There an be no wondering what to do ext. You got to stay off your hone, stop the scroll and avoid ime sucks like Think about it, f you've if you know you have o be somewhere like you have to atch a flight, right? Maybe ou're leaving the next day for vacation. And you're like, kay, I have to get all the tuff done at work. Before I go n my vacation, you get that tuff done, right? Because you now, you have a finite amount f time to get that done. And it ust be done before you get on hat plane or get in that car. o think about the same thing ach day, you know, you're like, kay, I have this set amount of ime. So I need to just kind of ike head down and get this tuff done. So that's why I say tay off your phone, because a ot of us get on our phone. And e're before we know it, we've lown 20 minutes going through ike Instagram or Facebook, ight. So you gotta avoid whatever your time suck is avoid that. And just be heads down, be like, Okay, this is my working time, this is what I'm doing. So let's talk about guilt. You may feel guilty upholding your boundaries, as well as ignoring your boundaries. So fun, right? When you've ignored your own boundaries, you might feel some anxiety, you might even feel irritated or resent those that you put your bout your boundaries down for. You might also feel guilty when you uphold your boundaries, because you're probably not going to be there for someone every time they need you. But at the end of the day, you'll feel more more like a whole person, giving people your best self rather than the scraps from being pulled to them. It's a two way street, you also need to respect the boundaries of others. So if you honor the time and priorities of others, they are more apt to do the same. If you if you don't set boundaries, and guess what, you have no control over your time and how you use it. Everybody else does. That's kind of a scary thought. Right? But it's true. If you don't manage your time and protect it, then people are going to take your time and use it how they want it. And you're like wait a minute, this is my life and my time what is going on here. So I hope this episode was helpful of a few ways, like first of all to realize that you should be putting boundaries up. It's not a bad thing. It's super healthy. It's great for your mental health and it's great for your relationships as well. If you have any questions on this or any kind of like tips on like how to do this, especially when you have maybe maybe you're working a couple of jobs or students you have family whatever it is, send me a note at Hello at Muscle Creative comm I would love to chat. So thanks for tuning in, and we'll see you next week. Thanks for tuning in to the Small Business big mindset podcasts. To keep the fun going check out our Facebook group start and scale an online business For even more free trainings and resources from fellow entrepreneurs. 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